Japanese Grammar

Giving and Receiving

In English, 'give' and 'receive' are simple. In Japanese, the verb changes depending on WHO is giving to WHOM, and whether the action moves toward or away from the speaker.

The Direction of the Action

To choose the right verb, imagine yourself in the center of a circle. Everything moving OUTWARD (from you to others) uses one verb. Everything moving INWARD (from others to you) uses another.

ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹ (Ageru): I give to someone. (Moving OUTWARD).

ใใ‚Œใ‚‹ (Kureru): Someone gives to ME. (Moving INWARD).

ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ† (Morau): I receive from someone. (Focuses on the receiver's perspective).

The JLPT tests this almost entirely through the particle attached to the other person, not through translation. 'X ใฏ ็งใซ ใ€œใใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸ' must take ใใ‚Œใ‚‹ because the action is moving toward ใ‚ใŸใ—. '็งใฏ X ใซ ใ€œใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใŸ' takes ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ† because ใ‚ใŸใ— is the subject doing the receiving. At N4/N3, the honorific and humble versions appear too: ใ•ใ—ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹ (humble ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹), ใใ ใ•ใ‚‹ (respectful ใใ‚Œใ‚‹), ใ„ใŸใ ใ (humble ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†).

How to use them

ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹ (Ageru) - I give to you/him/her
Particle Rule
โ†’Giver ใฏ + Receiver ใซ + Object ใ‚’ + ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹
Giver is the subject (wa)
็งใฏๅ‹้”ใซ่Šฑใ‚’ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹
โ†’Watashi wa tomodachi ni hana o ageru
I give flowers to my friend
ใใ‚Œใ‚‹ (Kureru) - Someone gives to ME
Particle Rule
โ†’Giver ใฏ + ็งใซ + Object ใ‚’ + ใใ‚Œใ‚‹
Giver is still the subject, but receiver MUST be 'me' (or my in-group)
ๅ‹้”ใฏ็งใซ่Šฑใ‚’ใใ‚Œใ‚‹
โ†’Tomodachi wa watashi ni hana o kureru
My friend gives flowers to me
ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ† (Morau) - I receive from someone
Particle Rule
โ†’Receiver ใฏ + Giver ใซ(ใ‹ใ‚‰) + Object ใ‚’ + ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†
Receiver is the subject (wa)
็งใฏๅ‹้”ใซ่Šฑใ‚’ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†
โ†’Watashi wa tomodachi ni hana o morau
I receive flowers from my friend

Combining with the Te-Form (Doing favors)

็งใฏๅ‹้”ใ‚’ๆ‰‹ไผใฃใฆใ‚ใ’ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
Watashi wa tomodachi o tetsudatte agemashita.
I helped my friend. (I did the favor of helping)
ๅ‹้”ใฏ็งใ‚’ๆ‰‹ไผใฃใฆใใ‚Œใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
Tomodachi wa watashi o tetsudatte kuremashita.
My friend helped me. (They did the favor for me)
็งใฏๅ‹้”ใซๆ‰‹ไผใฃใฆใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ„ใพใ—ใŸใ€‚
Watashi wa tomodachi ni tetsudatte moraimashita.
I had my friend help me. (I received the favor of their help)

Teacher's Advice

The 'Ageru' Trap

Be very careful when using '~te ageru' (doing a favor for someone). Saying 'ๆ‰‹ไผใฃใฆใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹' (I will help you) can sound incredibly arrogant, like 'I am gracing you with my help.' To offer help politely, just use the normal verb: 'ๆ‰‹ไผใ„ใพใ—ใ‚‡ใ†ใ‹' (Shall I help?).

Related Grammar

Master the Directions

Practice identifying who is the giver and who is the receiver in our interactive scenarios.

Japanese Giving and Receiving: ใ‚ใ’ใ‚‹, ใ‚‚ใ‚‰ใ†, ใใ‚Œใ‚‹ | Nihongo Pass